i cannot (i totally can) believe that was the last thing i reblogged before logging out lmao nice
i cannot (i totally can) believe that was the last thing i reblogged before logging out lmao nice
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we all need to fuck
you tell me this the day after i trade my penis in at gamestop
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my gastrointestinal system:
- doesn’t fucking work
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Disease in the working classes experienced a script rewrite commensurate with the new values of an industrialized world. God no longer caused disease directly, but “his” weaker human creations met with increased hazards. The poor were not viewed as a class of disadvantaged people; rather, poverty was seen as the punishment for racial, or cultural difference. Sloth, vice, and overcrowding were increasingly viewed as the causes, not the results of poverty. Disease was verification that the poor, through the constellation of factors that marked their poverty, were indeed inferior and immoral. [See e.g. Ehrenreich & English 1973, Rosenberg 1962]
The dirt of poverty replaced the disorder of sin: poverty and sin were equivalent, and disease stood as the sign and punishment for either. By a curious twist of logic, disease in the poor retained the power of moral stigma — the slothful poor attracted their diseases — while the exact same disease in the wealthy was caused by microbes unleashed by others. The shifting gender and class relations in the rapidly industrializing U.S. left much room for interpretation of who got sick and why. Only venereal disease remained classified by the part of the body attacked and stood as proof of contact with immorality and disorder, regardless of class or gender.
— Cindy Patton, Sex and Germs: The Politics of AIDS (1985), Ch. 5.
Witnessed the second coming of Christ in Claire’s
care to elaborate?
His stigmatas got infected by the piercing gun
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I really think hospitals and doctors that work with pregnancy and pediatricians need to make more literature available for how to, ya know, work with kids? Because the more conversations we have about spanking (and how it’s ineffective and harmful and does more bad than good), the more I realize that a lot of people don’t know the alternatives. Or like, anything about child development or where misbehavior stems from.
So, as someone who went through childhood development classes in college, works with kids for a living, and knows multiple people who specialized in childhood education, here are some pointers when you are working with kids:
1. Model emotional response for kids. Children are learning how to recognize and respond to their own emotions. All the way up through high school, children’s brains are still developing, and the emotions they are learning to process become more complex. So with really young kids, the easiest way to help them with this is to model emotional self awareness and self care.
- “Oh wow, mommy is feeling angry because the cat made a mess. I’m going to clean this mess and then go sit in my room in the quiet for a short break so I feel better.”
- “You know, I am feeling very sad about not going to the park because it is raining. I bet some hot chocolate and a book would make me feel better.”
- ”Huh, I’m feeling kind of cranky and hungry, but daddy won’t be home for dinner for another hour. I bet I’ll feel better if I eat a little piece apple while we wait.”
2. Understand what causes child frustration and work to preempt it.
- -Transitions (from one activity to another, getting in the car, etc) can be stressful, especially if the activity or location they are leaving is fun. Give kids a warning when this is going to happen. With young kids, give them about 5-15 minutes of warning (”10 minutes until we are going to leave the park and go home. Do your last thing.”), with older kids, just give them a time frame. (We are can play at McDonalds for 30 minutes, but then we have to go grocery shopping, ok?)
- Not being able to communicate what they want to is frustrating. Babies can learn simplified baby sign language months before they are verbal. Kids may not know the words for what they are trying to say. Be patient and help them find the right words. On a similar note, don’t ignore kids. If you really can’t respond to their question right away because of something else, at least tell the “Yes, I heard your question. I’ll answer you as soon as I’m done talking on the phone.”
- Not being able to make choices or having too much choice can be overwhelming. Give kids a limited, reasonable selection of choices. “Do you want apple slices or juicy pears on the side for lunch?” is much better than “What do you want with your sandwich?” or just giving them apple slices. “Do you want to give grandpa a hug or a high five?” is better than demanding they hug grandpa right away.
3. Understand that kids are people to. They will get hungry, tired, an annoyed just like adults do. Sometimes you have to be flexible and give them time to self care. Talk to them, explain things to them, let them be people and not just dolls. “Because I said so” is really unhelpful for a growing kid. “We can’t buy Fruit Loops today because we are already getting Frosted Flakes. We only need one cereal at a time.” is going to do you a lot more favors. “Don’t pick up the glass snow globe. It belongs to grandma and can break easy. She would be sad if we broke it on accident.” is better than “don’t touch that.”
And look, no parent is perfect. No baby sitter, no teacher, no care taker is going to be awesome all the time. And no kid is going to be perfect. They will cry and have tantrums, and not be able to tell you what they need, and be stubborn sometimes. Sometimes they need space, or quiet time. Sometimes they need attention and validation.
But kids learn from every interaction they have, so adults need to make the effort to show all the love, and patience, and empathy, and thoughtfulness we want them to learn.
This is really helpful. Not just for parents but even for anyone interacting with kids. I have a tough time communicating effectively with people my own age. And kids are a whole different ballgame.
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